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Fix these three love blocks and I promise you, your energy will be so much more magnetic, so much more attractive, and you will just find that by naturally being yourself, you emanate that energy.
Now the first love block to fix, that completely changes your life when you begin to apply it has to do with understanding your frame. We all have a frame of reality, we are emanating out.
Now what happens is if there is needy energy or if there is codependent energy, then what that means is that someone else is craving someone else’s frame of reality. So when you’re feeling safe inside your own body.
When you’re leading in your life, going in a certain direction, when you feel good and you feel worthy, you emanate that out in other people, feel that. Remember one of the first and most important laws, when it comes to attraction.
People feel what you feel about you. Because people are mirroring back the energy you are emanating out. And when it comes to codependency and neediness, that is an energy that is very repelling.
Needy energy and codependent energy, literally pushes away that which we want. Now we could also say that the degree to which someone is attractive is the degree to which someone is not needy.
So let’s define what neediness is. Neediness and non-neediness. The opposite sides of the coin. Neediness is when we put what someone else thinks or what someone else feels or someone else in general.
When we make them more important than ourselves. And we also believe that they have something that if they were to give to us, we would then feel good enough. Then that is what is called neediness.
Is when we put them on a pedestal, when we believe they are the cure to whatever we think we want, that is neediness. Non-neediness is when you value and fill up your own cup. It’s when you don’t need something from them you don’t put them on a pedestal.
Because remember when you treat someone like a celebrity, they treat you like a fan. Why? Because people are playing according, people are responding to us based on the energy we’re putting out. So for like, oh my God, I’m so grateful to be around you.
I really hope you text me back. And this, this, this. They’re not gonna be like, oh, I’m so attracted. They’re not, the attraction goes down, because of the way they’re being treated.
So when it comes to this, realize that one of the most powerful things to do is to understand that neediness is one of the most repellent things. And the key to this is also realize that we tend to try to attract people into our life.
Because we want them to meet our unmet childhood needs when we were kids. Let me say that again, in a little different way. So the people we attract into our life, we attract them many times to close the loop from childhood, because we’re hoping they will fill up the cup, and they will meet the unmet childhood needs we had as kids.
So if we felt needy as a kid maybe our parents didn’t give us the love, the nurturing, the support, they didn’t meet our needs. Then what happens is we tend to, that feels familiar to us.
So then we go out into the world and we attract people hoping they can meet our needs. But the thing is, is normally we attract people that aren’t able to meet our needs because that feels safe from childhood.
We secretly kind of want it. In a weird way because it feels familiar. It feels like childhood. We are trying to close the loop and to recreate the same energetic energies that were around when we were kids.
So one of the most powerful things to realize is that we all have like an inner child that we can begin to meet our own needs and let go of the old meanings and the old beliefs that we adopted as kids.
And those old meanings, old beliefs, may have been validation and approval is outside of myself. Because maybe we also weren’t encouraged to meet our own needs as a kid, too.
There’s different sides. That’s either our needs weren’t met or we weren’t encouraged to meet our own needs. So then we expect everyone else to. The key to this though, 90% of all transformation, with this process, is to become aware of it.
And to realize are we projecting these things outside of ourself and expecting somebody else to meet our needs. And one thing that we could then do is begin to heal the childhood stuff by becoming aware of it.
That’s 90% of it. And then letting go of the old meaning and realizing that if we believe somebody else has the validation, has the love, has the support, and we don’t have it.
Then we’re looking for something external to ourselves. And the solution to this that makes you more magnetic is to put the energy inside of yourself, put the energy in your hands, put the energy in your feet.
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